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0.9 A hallway full of boxes
I’ve had this in draft for a long time and it was the most difficult post to write. The impact of the day was almost too much for me and I only just made it through. After 35 years together, what remains is more than two people – it is an edifice. How we take…
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011. Taysie
The Myers Brigg personality test talks about something it calls The Grip. It is a kind of ‘stress’ & the response we have to it. My relationship with Taysie feels like that sometimes. I am in the grip of her not because she is manipulative but because of my feelings for her and their complexity.
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10.0 Kate
Joining a dating site with intent is scary. I’d peeped before to see what the future might look like and even that was difficult. This time, it was for real. e-Harmony is not cheap but it means those people that pay are serious about trying to find someone. It’s not about one-night-stands (ONS) or a…
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08. The edge of the bed
How do we end our relationships? A life lived together for so long demands a grand gesture perhaps. Or maybe, like everything else, it emerges from the mundane, an everyday moment.
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O.7 The Priest’s Housekeeper
How long can you hold a candle for someone? After 40 years, it really isn’t anything other than a distant memory. Lives have been lived, new lives started. It doesn’t stop those moments being an inflexion point that cannot be forgotten. This is the story of one of them.
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0.6 A liminal state
Def: 1. occupying a position at, or on both sides of, a boundary or threshold. “I was in the liminal space between past and present” Liminal spaces in the physical sense are those places that “occupy the spaces between” – railway concourses, passageways
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0.5 Only straight lines
“Be a fool. For love. For yourself. What you think might possibly make you happy – even for a little while – whatever the cost or good sense might dictate.” Anthony Bourdain.
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0.4 The Empty Chair… Helen
The Empty Chair Technique is a therapeutic practice within Gestalt therapy, where an individual engages in a dialogue with an absent person or part of themselves, represented by an empty chair.
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0.3 2D love and rejection
How does one shine in a 2D world of dating sites? It is hard. There are many ‘looks don’t matter’ statements from the women. Men talk of their empathy, presence and stature. But in the 2D world, the main access point is the photograph. What does the other person look like? It’s the entry gate…
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0.2 The Waitress, an emotional affair in one Act
Where does politeness stop and intimacy begin? Is there a starter telling us to go? What does it mean when we touch someone? Maybe we want them to know they are valued. Do we want to connect to that person in a way that our conversation cannot carry on its own? Not all touches are…
Messages to Nowhere: A diary of limerence 